You’ve probably heard, “you have to love yourself before someone else can love you” or “you have to take care of yourself or you cant take care of others”. Both are eventually true. It may not be evident at first and it may not even seem like the problem but if there is one thing I’ve learned over the years is that you DO have to take care of yourself. You DO have to love yourself. You DO have to put yourself first. Some people think that sound selfish, self centered or even egotistical. But the kind of first I’m referring to has nothing to do with putting others down, stepping on the backs of others, or using others in any way. It simply means knowing you are full. Full of self love, full of self worth, and full of self satisfaction. You wont say yes to things that burden you. You wont make time for those who don’t appreciate your time. You will start enjoying life and finding enjoying things to do. Today try not judging yourself. If you catch yourself thinking something negative about you….stop it right there and change the thought process. Lighten it up. Tell yourself whatever you would tell your best friend in the same circumstance. With unconditional love! After the first day, ponder on any negative things you were going to say to yourself that day and sit in gratitude that you did not let yourself do it and try it again tomorrow! After 15 days, you will automatically start filling in positive thoughts were the negative thoughts once were. If you don’t believe me, give it a try! The only thing you have to lose is negative self talk and personal sabatage. Be kind to yourself-all day, every day!